breast cancer, life, Uncategorized

Cancer Care and Politics #4

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My Recent Calls this afternoon

I was healthy until I wasn’t. I didn’t do anything wrong no matter what my scumbag brain tells me. Breast cancer isn’t my fault. I was healthy until I wasn’t.

Why do I have to call my senators and beg them not to vote for something that will allow my insurance company to increase my rates, impose lifetime and annual limits again, or decide I’m too expensive and drop me? Why do I have to call and beg my senators not to kill me?

I need someone to explain to me why the GOP is so heartless. Is it really just money? I’m not worth it because I’m solidly middle class? Because I wasn’t born into a wealthy family? Because I work to serve my community instead of making millions (as if…)? Why am I unworthy? Is it, as some senators have said in interviews, because people like me must have done something wrong to become sick? There but by the grace of God go you if you truly believe it. I was healthy until I wasn’t.

I can’t afford for lifetime and annual limits to return. If they do, my life is worth a whole lot less than security for A, S, and AJ. My children do not deserve to lose their mother, no child does, but more, if my children have to lose me, they do not also deserve to lose their home and financial security because my care would cost so much.

I know what it’s like to grow up with financial instability. My children will not have that experience. I know what it’s like to go through a bankruptcy as a child. My children will not have that experience. The stress, the fear. My children will not have that experience. I will forego treatment because their future means more to me, and let’s face it, if my cancer comes back, that’s the ballgame. I want to live, to see S and AJ become adults. I want to live.

But, I had cancer and have no idea what’s in front of me.

I was healthy on August 1, 2015. Yes, I suspected something wasn’t right, but suspicions can be wrong. I wish mine was. I was healthy until I had cancer on August 27, 2015.

I call my senators’ offices nearly everyday. I tell my story over and over. It falls deaf on my senators’ ears. Yesterday, I asked the young man who answered the phone at Senator Cruz’s why Senator Cruz seems to hate constituents like me. I’ve asked the same question of the young men who have answered the phone at Senator Cornyn’s office. I always get the answer that neither senator hates constituents like me but cannot respond to how else people like me are to view votes for bills that could become our death sentence.

I’m tired of begging Republicans not to vote for something that could become my death certificate. I’m tired of being viewed with both pity and derision by people who are healthy, by Republicans. I was healthy until I wasn’t.

Last night, A sat with me for an hour as I sobbed about how scared I am the cancer is back even though I feel no different than I did 12 weeks ago. I didn’t feel sick on August 26, 2015.

But, I was.

A sat with me, let me cry, offered no platitudes. He listened to me fear the cancer, confess how ugly I feel, relate my shame for gaining weight, and despair for my future. Once I talked myself out, A talked about his day, how much he enjoys his new job, and the minutiae of his day. He soothed. Then, he scolded.

I woke up steadier today. But, I’m still sad, so sad, that so many view my life as less, view me as less.

I hope those who support this deathcare movement, this abomination of a bill never feel the way I feel because of them -less, ashamed, terrified. I hope they never have to face a family member or friend whose life they’ve put in danger. I hope they find the compassion they’re missing. I hope the almighty dollar becomes less important to them. I hope they find their humanity and humility.

The arrogance of those who believe they will never be affected by this healthcare proposal astounds me. This will affect everyone in some way.

Once upon a time, I was arrogant about cancer, especially breast cancer. I truly believed I would never have it, but if I did, it would be when I was much older. I truly believed I wouldn’t fear the pink ribbon, Pinktober, and Pink Outs. I truly believed my life would never revolve around doctor’s appointments, blood works, X-rays, and surgeries. I was 37. I was healthy.

Then, I wasn’t.

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